Thursday, September 04, 2008

Why Dating Sucks

Even though I don't have a significant other at the moment, I'm always on the look-out for attractive single men or women for my single friends. I figure it can only generate good karma no?

Well, the other day I mentioned to a guy that I know that I had a really attractive friend, accomplished, a writer, funny, adventurous and she has an advanced degree. I even showed him a picture of her from her web-site.

Do you know what he said?

"She's too smart."

Who knew that in 2008, men actually still thought like this. And this guy has a good job, making six figures, it's not like he's dumb. But apparently he wants to date someone who is. I mean if I had a friend with an IQ of less than 100 with big boobs and hair, he'd have been all over that. Unfortunately for him, I don't have bimbo friends. I only have fabulous, smart, friends who are articulate and beautiful. And yes, we are all single but not for lack of trying.

It reminds me of the Toby Young book, "How to Lose Friends and Alienate People," where he spent his entire time in New York trying to date women out of his league (models, fashionistas) instead of normal women who might actually have gone out with him and had a good time. Why do all men think that Eva Mendes or Jessica Alba would go out with them, if they had the chance? I already know that George Clooney wouldn't give me a second look if he met me, and I would probably faint if he did.

Seriously, do all men suck or just the ones in New York? Do I need to move to another city? And please don't say, someplace like Des Moines or Cincinnati.


Anonymous said...

That's just about the most depressing thing I've ever heard. I think I'll start introducing myself thusly, "Hi, I'm Liz! Don't worry, I'm an idiot."

Megan Frampton said...

No offense, EKM, but your friend is too dumb for your smart girlfriend.

There was a SATC epi about that upward mobility model-dating thing, too.

Why are men so stupid?

Elizabeth Kerri Mahon said...

I know, I couldn't believe it. I wasn't sure if he was joking when he said that this writer was too smart. Whatever happened to intelligence being sexy? Or do only women think that? Because I love an intelligent guy who isn't pretentious about it. Like a good looking, intelligent, geek.

Elizabeth Kerri Mahon said...

Yeah, MF, I'm beginning to think that my girlf friend could do better than this guy. This is what I get for trying to be nice!

Shý said...

LOL that was too funny... MEN! You should come to Texas, the men here doesn't discriminate with the IQ status. They just want someone who can cook, clean, and have their babies lol.

Amanda McCabe said...

No, they suck here, too. But they want dumb AND conservative women, so it's kinda even worse. :)

I'd like to find a better place to live, too, but I'm not sure where that would be. Santa Fe? London? Honolulu? Hmmm.

Hope Tarr said...

Well, maybe it's the romance fiction idealist still living inside me (or that if I let myself believe otherwise I'd have to start drinking a lot more a lot earlier) but I don't think all men suck.

Apparently though, a good deal more of them suck than we even suspected. As to your male "friend," maybe next time a rebuttal along the lines of:

"Ah, it's probably just as well. My friend only dates men with rally big brans and really big..."


Hope Tarr said...

... that was really big brains ;)

Kwana said...

That is just awful. Was your mouth hanging awful. You should have said, "yeah you're right way to smart for you dumbass." or "Let's hope your future daughter doesn't turn out so smart."

Elizabeth Kerri Mahon said...

Hope, I try to be a romantic optimist like you, because my ex-sweetie pie had no problem with smart women, but there do seem to be a lot of men who do like dumb women, and as a woman of color, the smarter you are, the fewer men that are available to you. I read somewhere that Asian men and black women are the largest groups of singletons out there. Why are there no black/asian dating services? The world needs more Tiger Woods, or Kimora Lee's! Well maybe not more Kimora Lee.

Elizabeth Kerri Mahon said...

Amanda, that's sad that they want them dumb and conservative where you are. I'm gathering the perfect women would then then be Elisabeth Hasselbeck? Or as I like to call her Hasselbot? I would love to move to London, but I can't afford it. Hey, there are plenty of men in Alaska! But they probably want conservative hockey moms there too.

Elizabeth Kerri Mahon said...

Kwana, yes my mouth was hanging open in shock. And I wish I had come up with the witty comebacks that you came up with. I'll have to remember them the next time.